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Marital Separation or Divorce


By Marilyn Pritchard

No one thinks about getting a divorce when they’re walking down the aisle. Most of us, when we got married, had a fairy-tale idea of what marriage would look like─happily ever after, in sickness and in health, for better or worse. Unfortunately, we didn’t understand what “worse” might look like.

Are you facing the “worse” part of marriage right now? Maybe your spouse has given up on your marriage. Maybe the two of you are at an impasse. Maybe you just don’t know how you can go on in your marriage the way it is right now.

I wish I had the answers for you, but every story is different─everyone’s personal circumstances are unique.

So if you find yourself in this situation, here’s some godly wisdom from those who have been there:

  1. Pray. Before doing anything else, bathe your marriage in prayer. If you don’t know what to pray, just call out to your heavenly Father. “And the Holy Spirit helps us in our weakness. For example, we don’t know what God wants us to pray for. But the Holy Spirit prays for us with groanings that cannot be expressed in words. And the Father who knows all hearts knows what the Spirit is saying, for the Spirit pleads for us believers in harmony with God’s own will” (Rom, 8:26-27, NLT).
  1. Seek Christian counseling. It’s important to find a counselor who shares your biblical viewpoint. If your spouse is not willing to go with you, the two of you could seek counseling separately, or you can go alone. “…The wise  listen to advice” (Prov. 12:15b).
  1. Practice self-care. If you are in an unsafe situation, or the safety of your children is at risk, please seek help. But even if that’s not the case, make sure you’re taking care of yourself — physically, spiritually and emotionally. You can’t take responsibility for your spouse, but you are responsible for your own well-being.
  1. Remember whose you are. You are a daughter of the King. “I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty” (2 Cor. 6:18). You are made in His image and He loves you lavishly! “See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are” (1 John 3:1)! 

Many women in the church feel abandoned and alone when going through a marital separation or divorce. We at Just Between Us (JBU) want you to know that you’re not alone. We have gathered some articles written by women who know what you’re going through. We pray that through their words you will find hope and encouragement to reach out to a friend, pastor, or counselor for help.


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