Finding out a child, spouse, relative, friend, or coworker is homosexual can be difficult news. You’re hit with a complex combination of emotions – grief, shame, fear, guilt, disbelief. You’re often left struggling with questions like why and now what. You’re left wondering how you should respond as a Christian. At the same time, someone you care deeply about may be awaiting your response. What should you say? What shouldn’t you  say? How should you interact?

The following resources are compiled to help you answer some of these questions and more, and guide you as you love the gays and/or lesbians in your life in a Christ-like way.    


Out of a Far Country – A Gay Son’s Journey to God.  A Broken Mother’s Search for Hope by Christopher Yuan & Angela Yuan 

Christopher Yuan, the son of Chinese immigrants, discovered at an early age that he was different. He was attracted to other boys. As he grew into adulthood, his mother, Angela, hoped to control the situation. Instead, she found that her son and her life were spiraling out of control – and her own personal demons were determined to defeat her.

Years of heartbreak, confusion, and prayer followed before the Yuans found a place of complete surrender, which is God’s desire for all families. Their amazing story, told from the perspectives of both mother and son, offers hope for anyone affected by homosexuality. 

Someone I Love Is Gay: How Family & Friends Can Respond  by Anita Worthen and Bob Davies 

This book was created out of Bob Davies’s personal and professional experience and out of Anita Worthen’s struggle with her son over these issues. Also drawing on the experience of others, the authors will help you handle your feelings while responding appropriately to your loved one.

Called Out – A Former Lesbian’s Discovery of Freedom by Janet Boynes

Janet Boynes leads readers through her inspiring testimony from the trauma and pain she suffered during her 14 years as a lesbian, to her deliverance from homosexuality, and her glorious return to God. 

As a woman who dealt with homosexuality on a personal basis, Janet addresses the controversial subject with remarkable candor and sensitivity, and presents the truth with a message of hope. This book is highly recommended for anyone who knows or is related to a member of the homosexual community and desires to love them as Christ does.

Homosexuality: Speaking the Truth in Love by Edward T. Welch 

This 40-page booklet addresses the basic issue of how to minister to friends, family, and members of our churches who struggle with homosexual desires. 


When Your Friend Says, “I’m Gay” – How to respond with compassion and truth  

Published in the November/December 2003 issue of Discipleship Journal

A Way Out by Janet Boynes 

Published in Charisma Magazine, July 2011

Former lesbian Janet Boynes is living proof that despite a past filled with physical and sexual abuse, depression, and failed homosexual relationships, God still offers a way out – in love.

Excerpt from Article:

The only way we can effectively help those bound by homosexuality to find forgiveness and freedom is to be there for them and to reach out in mercy. I can say with certainty that even the most militant gay activists, at their core, are crying for understanding. They want someone just to accept them where they are and not condemn them. 

I’m convinced that the active, prayerful, Spirit-anointed compassion of God’s people is the key to bringing deliverance and hope to those caught in the homosexual lifestyle. If someone had confronted me with a judgmental attitude or even a hint of condemnation, I would’ve turned away. You see, I already had enough condemnation boiling deep inside me. What I needed most was an active demonstration of God’s love and mercy breaking into my prison of sin and guilt.   


Turning a Kind Eye: HOMOSEXUALITY

This audio message by Pastor Pete Briscoe explores the subject of homosexuality from a biblical perspective and the Christian response to it. It helps equip and encourage listeners to understand and interact with anyone embracing the gay lifestyle in a more Christ-like and loving way. Pete discusses God’s blueprint for human sexuality along with the boundaries our Creator has in place for us. Challenge your mindset and tune it closer to God’s heart for those hurting in a lost culture. 

Available through Telling the Truth Ministries for $5/plus shipping


Dr. Rob Gagnon/New Testament Scholar

He has done extensive research on the ancient world and homosexuality. 

Truth, surprisingly, is scarce in the rhetoric surrounding how the Church should respond to homosexuality. more


Out of a Far Country: the story of a gay son’s journey to God and a broken mother’s search for hope. more

Inspirational Stories

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