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Say Goodbye to Guilt

Are you dealing with the chains of false guilt? You can break free and say goodbye to the guilt that weighs down your life.

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I gasped in amazement at the vast array of purses and jewelry on display in the Fancy Fakes store. How could anything false look so much like the real thing? As I considered buying one or two pieces of jewelry, including a very convincing “gold” chain, I thought to myself, “Maybe no one will be able to tell the difference. After all, does it really matter if my jewelry is the real thing or false?”  

Knowing the Difference

However, there are areas of our lives where it does matter if we can’t tell the difference between the real and the false. Take guilt, for example. Many Christians, including women in ministry, wear the unattractive chain of false guilt, yet, they’re convinced it’s real. Sadly, such chains prevent them from fully enjoying their freedom in Christ. People reckon that because they feel guilty, they must be guilty. Yet this isn’t always true.  Certainly, there are times when our guilt is real, when our sinful attitudes and behaviors cut across God’s standards for living. When this happens, we know how important it is to admit our wrongdoing to God and receive His forgiveness. Yet, how do we recognize and deal with the chains of false guilt which, like the items in the Fancy Fakes store, look all too real? Let’s identify some “false guilt chains” and break them apart by applying a few guilt-busters.  

False Guilt Chain #1: Not Meeting Expectations

Sometimes we feel guilty over something that doesn’t violate God’s standards, but fails to come up to meet our own or other people’s expectations. Take Alison, for example. She has very difficult in-laws who have been angling for regular invitations to dinner, but she just can’t face the inevitable bickering that will take place over the meal, so she puts them off – again. This makes her feel guilty because she thinks she “ought to” ask them to dinner more often. Alison is allowing her in-laws’ expectations to inflict false guilt. However, at the end of the day, the decision about how often to invite them to dinner belongs to Alison and her husband alone.  

Guilt-busters:

False Guilt Chain # 2: Remembering Forgiven Sins

Oftentimes we feel false guilt over past sins that God has already forgiven. Sarah had an affair with a married man that ended shortly after he divorced his wife. Not long afterwards, Sarah came into a living relationship with Jesus Christ and His forgiveness extended to every area of her life. However, the painful memory of her affair and the part she played in the break-up of a marriage continues to arouse feelings of guilt and condemnation in her.  

Satan, the enemy of every Christian, loves to condemn us by reminding us of past sins that we’ve confessed and forsaken. But Romans 8:1 says: “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” Whenever we feel condemned, we need to recognize the malevolent work of our enemy who is trying to rob us of the peace that is ours through Christ. 

Condemnation is not the same as conviction. While Satan loves to condemn us by heaping false guilt on us, the Holy Spirit convicts us of actual wrongdoing. So whenever we feel guilty, it’s in our interest to discern between the accusations of Satan and the promptings of the Spirit. Condemnation is often general or vague and presents forgiveness as being way out of reach. Conviction, on the other hand, tends to be specific about a particular sin and encourages us to go to Christ for forgiveness. Ask God to show you which one applies in your present situation. Respond to real guilt with confession from a penitent heart, but refuse to bear the burden of false guilt by acknowledging it as such. Feelings of guilt may come and go, so take time to remind yourself that you have been forgiven. It’s a done deal. Don’t allow yourself to feel guilty over an issue that Jesus Christ has already dealt with. 

Guilt-busters:

False Guilt Chain # 3:  Not Being Able to Make Things Right

Even when we acknowledge that God has completely forgiven us for past sins, we might still feel guilty if there’s no opportunity for us to make things right with the person we’ve offended. Joanne had a very difficult relationship with her sister, Eve. Things got so bad that she cut off all contact with Eve. Several years later, Joanne realized that she hadn’t been entirely innocent in the breakdown of the relationship and considered trying to contact her sister. Sadly, Eve died before Joanne was able to follow through on her intentions. 

How can we deal with the feelings of guilt and regret that stem from not being able to make restitution?        

Guilt-busters:

The Glorious Freedom

Are chains of guilt holding you back from being all that you can be as a Christian woman? If your guilt is real, then confess the sin, turn from it, and don’t let Satan accuse you of it again. If your guilt is false, try using some of the guilt-busters to break the chains and move on in what the Bible calls “the glorious freedom of the children of God” (Rom. 8:21). Say goodbye to guilt – you’ll be glad you did!   

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